Hey guys! Hope you doing well. In the last week or two, the topic of authenticity has been coming up in my life and lately I’ve been challenging myself to live a life as authentic as possible because let’s face it, we live in a world full of false pretences, masks, empty promises and the list goes on and on. I think as much as we all put on a show sometimes whether it be in our interactions with others or on social media I feel we are all chasing “the real” on a daily basis.
I found in my life personally that “the real” has always eluded me. I’m talking about real friends, real interactions where people say what they feel. Upon deeper introspection, I came to the conclusion that becoming authentic is a lifetime process. Notice I said a LIFETIME and a PROCESS. I believe we can make choices daily to be as real as possible in our interactions with people, in our relationships, in our workplace and wherever we go. It’s like being in a cocoon and over time as we grow, heal, and love ourselves more and more, we become the person we are called to be.
There can be moments when we truly express our authentic selves and then there are moments that trigger our inner wounds. We then find ourselves acting in a way that’s out of alignment with our true selves. It’s become the norm to follow a trend, show a version of ourselves on social media where we act like we’ve got it all together and I think that’s especially true for bloggers. My vision for my blog is to showcase my personal style but to also address THE REAL ISSUES and be REAL with you guys as there is so much going on in our world sometimes we don’t know what’s real and what’s fake. Amongst all the glamour of fashion I feel there needs to an element of realness and that is the real you shining through the fashion regardless of what the current trend is.So as I said before, it’s a lifelong process, but this doesn’t mean that it’s something we shouldn’t aspire to. Below are some points to think about if you aspire to live an authentic life.
Stand for what you believe in
Authentic people are in touch with their moral compass. Authentic people stand for what they believe in and aren’t afraid to tell people regardless of whether its popular or not.
Express your true thoughts, feelings and views unapologetically
Authentic people don’t say things that they don’t truly mean. They don’t do things that they don’t really want to do. They are able to share their own unique thoughts, feelings and views without fear of what other people will think of them. This is something I struggled with when I was younger especially when I was surrounded by people who were doing things I wouldn’t necessarily do. Sometimes it’s easy to just go with the flow out of fear of being rejected, but in taking that step in speaking up and voicing your opinion you will experience a new found freedom and you might find that some people share your views but are too shy to speak up about it. In doing this you are an encouragement to other people in how to live life authentically because they see how authentic you live your life.
Put some time into personal growth
This can be through hobbies, classes or reading up on a particular topic. Taking up a hobby that inspires you to improve your skills is a great way to define what makes you happiest. It allows us to become more aware of how life experiences create more meaning and richness in our lives.
Accept your flaws
Being comfortable with yourself requires you to accept that you are not perfect. If you know your flaws and make efforts to avoid hurting others or yourself with them, then you are much more in touch with reality. We all make mistakes and the thing we need to remember when we wake up in the morning is that the new day is an opportunity to be a better person than we were yesterday.
Don’t put on a different face or personality
We all do this daily, myself included. Playing up to what other people like when you are out with friends can help you fit in, but you are unlikely to be comfortable with people if they don’t know what you really think. Believe me people can see when you’re being real and sincere. Being real is attractive and real people attract real people. When you live authentically people are automatically drawn to that.
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